Random Thoughts

This is random, don't mind it. Just drafting some thoughts before I hopefully manage to turn it into an article or something. LOL. As if!

Anyways, the biggest thing I don't understand about relationships is how people can fight and argue and what have you when they claim that they have such strong feelings for each other. Personally speaking, if I have feelings for someone, I could never feel things like anger towards them from something so small as an argument or the subject thereof. I don't understand how so many arguments of the type can occur.. If you're doing something right, you're going to look past all of the small things that aren't worth the time you spend pouring over them, looking for a reason why your relationship isn't supposed to work. This particularly holds true to things that are said or actions that are performed where the intentions are innocent but are perceived by the other person in the relationship to be hostile, simply because the person is actively looking for a reason to justify their fear that things aren't going to work. They turn anything they can into evidence that would help them say "see, my fears are right". What the hell, though...

That's not why you're in a relationship, to question it.. And if you are, you should probably start rethinking it. You should be in the relationship in an interest to strengthen your bond with the other person to the greatest degree possible, (of biblical proportion if possible) usually in hopes that things will move to a more serious level someday. You should be doing anything in your power to make things be 110%, and this includes recognizing the imperfections or oversights of your significant other and excusing them when they're harmless as opposed to sticking a red flag on them and dragging everything back over something so harmless..

I'm not saying that anyone should let their guard down completely in regards to the other person's actions that would, of course, leave considerable potential for abuse with the right person. I'm saying the small arguments and petty things that escalate into the bigger things they shouldn't have become should be avoided or excused when they're observed. It's stupid to put the time and effort and doubt into it just to see it do your relationship harm when your goal in the relationship should be doing anything to strengthen that relationship that you possibly can. Otherwise, you're wasting your time, really!

As fun as that was to write, I need to go to bed again. I wasn't referring to anyone in particular in writing this, it's just a general behavior of people that I have never understood.